True cruelty is to show a woman the horrors of her own nature, to cast a mirror and make her aware of her own ugliness. She cannot handle it, so she must deny it, avoid it, reject it - anything but accept it. Truth is her enemy, which is why showing her herself is cruel.
The solutions to your problems are actually simple. It's just that you make it complicated.Why do you make it complicated? Because you always give excuses.